My ex is remarrying at 68 - but our daughter is too scared to ask what it means for her inheritance. Should I step in? VANESSA STOYKOV

Published: 01:50, 1 June 2026 | Updated: 01:59, 1 June 2026 My ex and I divorced 12 years ago after a long marriage. We have two adult children in their late 20s and, despite everything, we've remained reasonably amicable. Recently, he told me he was getting remarried. I was happy for him at first. He's in his late 60s and I don't for a second begrudge him companionship. The thought of it complicating our children's inheritance did not even occur to me until our daughter asked me if it would 'disappear into Dad's new marriage'. She only confided in me because she was too afraid to ask her father, for fear it might look like she was only interested in his money. My ex owns his home outright, has investments and good retirement savings. The children always assumed they would inherit something one day, not because they are waiting for it, but because their father had talked openly about helping future grandchildren and leaving a legacy. Vanessa Stoykov (pictured) helps a woman who is worried about her children's inheritance I feel uncomfortable raising it because it sounds greedy and I don't want the children appearing money-focused. But I also know second marriages can become complicated, especially if assets become mixed.  Should I encourage the children to speak to him? Or should I stay out of it completely and let him do what he wants with his money? This situation is becoming increasingly common as people find love again later in life. Families are changing. People are living longer, divorcing more, remarrying and blending families in ways previous generations didn't experience at the same scale. Your ex absolutely has the right to rebuild his life and make decisions about his assets. At the same time, it is understandable that adult children wonder how a major life change may affect future plans and family expectations. Money conversations around second relationships can feel awkward because nobody wants to appear entitled. However, avoiding them altogether can create even bigger issues later. 'I feel uncomfortable raising it because it sounds greedy and I don't want the children appearing money focused,' a woman writes to Vanessa (stock image posed by model) Globally, an estimated US$124trillion is expected to transfer between generations over the coming decades, in what many are calling the 'Great Wealth Transfer'. As families become more blended and people live longer, conversations around inheritance, fairness and legacy are becoming more common.  What matters here is communication. Rather than asking, 'What are we getting?' the conversation could be framed as: 'Dad, have you reviewed your wishes and documents now life is changing?' A remarriage can affect wills, superannuation beneficiaries, powers of attorney and estate plans. Many people simply do not realise how much needs updating. This is also a reminder that inheritance should never be assumed. Adult children are often better served focusing on their own financial foundations while appreciating anything that eventually comes as a bonus. That said, your children are not wrong for wanting clarity. Their concern may not be greed at all. It may simply be uncertainty. If your ex wants assets preserved for children while also protecting a new partner, there are ways to structure this, but it usually requires planning and advice. I would encourage the children to have an open, respectful conversation with their father directly rather than through you. Because the truth is, this is not really about money. It is about family, legacy and making sure everyone understands the future. Subscribe to Vanessa's free newsletter here.  No comments have so far been submitted. Why not be the first to send us your thoughts, or debate this issue live on our message boards. By posting your comment you agree to our house rules. Do you want to automatically post your MailOnline comments to your Facebook Timeline? Your comment will be posted to MailOnline as usual. Do you want to automatically post your MailOnline comments to your Facebook Timeline? Your comment will be posted to MailOnline as usual We will automatically post your comment and a link to the news story to your Facebook timeline at the same time it is posted on MailOnline. To do this we will link your MailOnline account with your Facebook account. We’ll ask you to confirm this for your first post to Facebook. You can choose on each post whether you would like it to be posted to Facebook. Your details from Facebook will be used to provide you with tailored content, marketing and ads in line with our Privacy Policy.