2 Signs Your Partner Has Long-Term Material, By A Psychologist

InnovationScience2 Signs Your Partner Has Long-Term Material, By A PsychologistByMark Travers,Contributor.Forbes contributors publish independent expert analyses and insights. I write about relationships, personality, and everyday psychology.Follow AuthorMay 31, 2026, 05:15pm EDT--:-- / --:--This voice experience is generated by AI. Learn more.This voice experience is generated by AI. Learn more.Do you and your partner have what it takes to build a relationship that stands the test of time? Here are two strong, research-backed ways to tell.gettyWhen we start falling for someone, our immediate thoughts aren’t always practical. For many, love begins as a whirlwind period where infatuation, chemistry and excitement eclipse nearly everything else. We focus on how deeply we feel for our partner, and not necessarily on whether our relationship with them can actually withstand the realities of life.But in the grand scheme of adulthood, durability is what ultimately reigns. Most people imagine a future where they’ve built some kind of stability: a meaningful career, financial security, a peaceful home life and a relationship that feels safe. And if you hope to one day settle down with someone who will treat you with the same care and commitment you offer them, passion alone isn’t enough to guarantee that future. You need practical, verifiable signs that a person can sustain healthy love over time. Here are two of the clearest signs your partner is long-term material.1. Your Partner Shares Your Goals And ValuesA partner who has the same goals and values as you is every bit as attractive as someone who’s successful, charming or physically appealing — if not more so. That’s because deep compatibility instills a sense of emotional security that things like passion and chemistry simply can’t.Surface-level similarities (e.g., liking the same music, hobbies, TV shows, etc.) can absolutely be beneficial. But they can only take a relationship so far. For the vast majority of couples...